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I was doing the after-Christmas-shopping thing picking up discounted deals on wrap etc. I was in the checkout line waiting for my turn with the cashier. There was a man a couple of customers ahead of me who had his hand on the counter. I noticed that his ring finger on his left hand was bare but there was an indent where a ring had been. The depth of the indent on his finger struck me. It had obviously been there a long long time.

I looked at what he was buying - sheets and pillow cases. Hmmmmm. I guessed he has just separated from his wife (maybe family too) and is now setting up his own place. I could not see his face as he had his back to me. I felt sad. I thought that he is probably in a lot of pain (even if he is the one who wanted out). As that old song says, “Breaking up is hard to do”.

I know marriage shapes us. This was proof, small but dramatic, of how marriage can impact us physically not just emotionally.

I wonder how long it will take for his finger to recover its original shape?

With care and concern,

Dr. Bea Mackay

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